Welcome. Your planning begins in the community — the tools in this binder are designed to be completed alongside the course, in order.
Step One · In the Community
Complete "Start Here" & Begin the Planning Roadmap™
Head to the Vivant & Vow community, finish the short Start Here course, then begin the Planning Roadmap™ course. As you move through Module 1, it will guide you to complete the three tools below — in this order.
Name how you want the day to feel, before choosing a single detail.
Step Three · Module 1, Lesson 6
The Priority Sort
Decide what's non-negotiable, worth having, and nice-to-have — so budget and timeline decisions get simple.
Step Four · Module 1, Lesson 7
Your Wedding Compass™
Bring your feeling words and non-negotiables together into a five-sentence vision — the anchor everything else hangs on.
Your Wedding Compass™
Guided by the Planning Roadmap™ — Module 1, Lesson 7
A five-sentence living document — written in your voice, built from your values — that captures the feeling, the purpose, the non-negotiables, the aesthetic direction, and the commitment at the heart of your wedding. The statement you return to every time a decision feels complicated.
Pull your feeling words from the Feeling Finder and your non-negotiables from the Priority Sort. Complete each sentence in your own voice — your full Compass assembles below.
Think of it as a compass, not a map. A map tells you where every road is. A compass tells you which direction is yours.
Send it first
Share it with vendors — it replaces a mood board and lets them do their best work.
Use it as a filter
When two options feel equal, read your Compass. One will serve it; the other won't.
Share it early
Give it to contributing family before opinions arrive. It sets expectations with love.
Come back to it
When planning feels like too much, return here and remember why you're doing this.
1 · The Feeling
We want our wedding to feel , , and — the kind of where guests feel .
2 · The Purpose
More than anything, this day is about — and we want every decision to reflect that.
3 · The Non-Negotiables
The things that matter most to us — that we will not compromise on — are , , and .
4 · The Aesthetic
Visually, we're drawn to — something that feels rather than .
5 · The Commitment
Through all of the decisions ahead, we commit to staying anchored to — and to each other.
Your Completed Wedding Compass™
Your VisionYour Wedding Compass™ will appear here, sentence by sentence, as you fill it in.
The Feeling Finder
Guided by the Planning Roadmap™ — Module 1, Lesson 5
Before you pick a color, pick a feeling. Select up to seven words that resonate with how you want your wedding day to feel — choose by instinct, not by what sounds right on paper.
A feeling is specific to you — a color palette could belong to anyone. When you lead with how you want the day to feel, every vendor makes better decisions and every choice gets easier.
Your Feeling Profile
Find the profile that best matches the majority of your words — it becomes the starting point for every vendor brief.
The Priority Sort
Guided by the Planning Roadmap™ — Module 1, Lesson 6
Your Non-Negotiables, Worth-Havings, and Nice-to-Haves. This sort is most powerful done independently — each partner sorts before you compare. For each element, choose the column that honestly reflects how you'd feel if it were gone entirely.
The sorting question:
"If we had to cut this tomorrow — no alternative, no workaround — would we be relieved, disappointed, or devastated?"
Tap ◆ non-negotiable · ◈ worth having · ◇ nice-to-have:
Non-Negotiable
You'd grieve this. Protect it first.
Worth Having
You'd be disappointed — but not devastated.
Nice-to-Have
Flexible. Your budget's breathing room.
Guest Planning
Your guest count isn't a number — it's a decision. Each of you builds three lists (one name per line). We'll combine them into a realistic range, counting anyone who appears on both lists only once.
Write one name, then press Enter to start the next line. Please don't use commas — each name needs its own line, or the count won't add up correctly.
Partner 1
Partner 2
Your Guest Count Range
0Must-Have List
0Realistic List
0Dream List
Start adding names and your range will appear here.
The Vendor Energy Check
Guided by the Planning Roadmap™ — Module 4, Lesson 1
Begin by naming the feeling you're protecting. Then the vendors who most carry that feeling go in your first group, and everyone else forms your supporting cast.
The Feeling You're Protecting
The vendors who shape that feeling most — often your photographer, planner, band, or florist — belong in “Vendors Who Carry the Feeling.”
Planning Checklist
Your roadmap steps, in order, grouped by module. Check them off as you go.
Budget
A simple, calm view of the numbers. Set your total, then estimate by category. The full financial toolkit — payment reviews, vendor quote checks, the Money Date — lives in the Inner Aisle.
Total Budget
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Estimated
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Remaining
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Priority
Estimated
Your Wins
Every step forward counts. Capture the moments worth celebrating — big and small.
The Membership
The Inner Aisle™
For couples who want a little more support as they plan — the full planning system, a guided curriculum, premium tools, and a community walking the same path.
The full system — Budget & Payment toolkit, specialty calculators, custom seating chart design, RSVP and meal management, entertainment and vendor management, Vendor Hub with contract storage, Timeline Builder, expanded Guest Planning, and your Beneath the Veil™ reflection.
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The Full Curriculum
Ten guided modules covering every dimension of planning — from vendor contracts to guest experience to the wedding day itself.
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The Inner Aisle Marketplace
Source, buy, and sell wedding décor, rentals, and accessories within the Vivant & Vow community.
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The Compass Lounge
A warm, private community space to share, ask, and feel a little less alone as you plan.
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Premium Templates
Every worksheet, contract guide, and planning tool — beautifully designed and ready to use.
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Everything Carries Over
When you upgrade, all your Planning Binder work comes with you. Nothing to rebuild — you simply gain more room.
Your Details
The little things that make your binder yours.
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